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Solving The Happy Family Mystery: The Grass Isn’t Always Greener

The grass isn’t always greener. It is not a mystery why some families seem happier than others. Pay attention to what your family needs so that you can have green grass too.

African American woman in a grassy field "The Grass Isn't Always Greener"

You can find serenity in knowing, when it comes to families, the grass is not always greener on the other side.  Often when I am out with my children, strangers will tell me how well-behaved my children are. They remark how mannerly they are, or how lucky I am to have them. My response is always a smile and a thank you.

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I smile because it is nice to be told that my children are behaving within acceptable societal norms. I smile because the words are a complement to the work I am doing as a mother. And sometimes, I smile because I know all the chaos at home that leads to the beautiful moment the person complimenting my children is now enjoying.

Things are not always what they seem to be.

There are many family situations similar to this one. For example:

  • a woman who is being physically abused puts smiling family photos in her work area and never complains about her abusive husband
  • someone dealing with a child who is dying from cancer laughs at the silly games your children play and never shows jealousy about the things her child will not ever do
  • a woman whose family is having severe financial struggles shares staycation stories while you wow the crowd with stories about your latest cruise
  • a woman without sufficient food at home accepts your compliments about the weight she has lost while wondering how she will feed her children this evening.

In the book, Anna Karenina Tolstoy tells us that “happy families are all the same, but each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” It is important to keep these words in mind when you are feeling sad or jealous about another family. You are on the outside looking in, you do not know the internal struggles of that other family.

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You do not know about the fertilizer and mowing that family put into making their family a successful unit. For example, I have had friends marry and divorce after a few years tell me that their marriages did not work because their husbands were not as good as mine. I smile because unlike someone looking at my marriage from the outside, I am living the life. I know how much work we put into having a successful marriage. Finally, I know the arguments, the tears, the tongues that were bitten, and the apologies that were given.

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Put the work in and your grass will be greener also!

Put in the work to make your family what you want it to be.

What if instead of being jealous of how green the grass is for another family, you paid attention to your own family? How would things be if instead of having an affair, you put time and attention into seducing and romancing your spouse? Imagine how things would be if you did some work to improve your attitude and to treat your family better.

Want greener grass for your family? Put in the work and reap the reward.

Remember grass usually does not grow lush, green, and strong without someone putting in work to make it happen. In conclusion, you can find serenity in knowing that when it comes to families, the grass is not always greener on the other side. So, the question for you this serene day is, what are you doing to take care of your family’s grass?

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22 thoughts on “Solving The Happy Family Mystery: The Grass Isn’t Always Greener”
  1. so in other words, mind your own business and pay attention to what’s going on in your own life; it might improve if you focus your attention on it. love it!

  2. So true & we cannot compare our family to others. What looks like green grass can be weeds sprayed with fertilizer. Yes put in the work & we can have the family that we want & can be proud of. Thanks for the great article as always.

  3. Wow! Well said Janeane. You don’t know the situation of someone unless they tell you. Relationships are hard work indeed and if we put in the work we’ll get there, the grass will be green!

  4. It’s like “mind your own business?” hehehehe. Each families are different and we all have problems in life it may be different but we all go through emotional, mental and physical distress.

  5. I totally agree. We can never tell somebody how to live their lives, because we never known what’s happening behind that door.

  6. I sure do agree. We don’t know what lies behind those smiles and laughs of other people. They may look happy, but we don’t know deep within their real situation. I do agree with focusing in on our own lives and how to better improve it instead of being jealous and comparing it to others. If we want to be successful, we must work hard for it. That’s so true. Thanks for sharing.

  7. It’s always a great feeling when people admire and sees what’ you’ve been working hard for. You are right, it’s not always greener on the other side of the fence.

  8. You always have very beautiful outlook and perspective, so inspiring to read. I agree, we should focus on how to improve our situation instead of being envy to the success of others.

  9. Trials are always part of lives. They made us stronger. The important thing in life is that we know how to handle those trials the best way possible. It’s not advisable to compare our lives with other people.

  10. Janeane, this is a beautiful and wonderfully written post. It is a fantastic reminder that we all need to spend the time on our grass instead of worrying about other peoples. Amazing words you have written here. Thank you…

  11. I used to work with victims of abuse, I would see these beautiful women who by the looks of things had everything, then you would see the photos that were taken and the damage their husbands did. They always went back because of fear or because of the children. I learned from that experience that you never know what happens behind closed doors, I also learned to be grateful for what I have.

  12. wow gret article sad but inspiring to we should all be more aware of other and be grateful for what we have

  13. Nicely written. It’s always nice to be reminded that the grass on the other side is not always greener.

  14. Well written. We all know this and we all see it, but what do we do to change it? Thanks!

  15. It’s amazing isn’t how sometimes we can appear so different on the outside to all that is going on inside. x

  16. Amen! : )
    I always try to remember that we are just seeing one tiny snippet of someone’s life when we see them out and about.

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