It is magnificent to take action now and make a happy marriage work long term. This space is usually devoted to tips, advice, and encouragement to take action now to accomplish something in your professional life. My readers are mostly working women, many of whom are married or wish to be married. At the encouragement of a wonderful Facebook group to support Christian wives, a prepared this special edition of take action now – how to take action now to make a happy marriage last long– term.
The first step in making a marriage last over the long-term is to know the value of marriage. Just as the best meals start with the selection of the just the right ingredients, the best marriages start with the right pieces. I am a church girl at heart (and soul) so for me, a happy marriage starts with having a good relationship with God and recognition of the place of marriage in Christian life. For me, that means following the advice in Proverbs 31:10-31, which says a virtuous wife is more precious than rubies and her husband can safely trust in her. The Proverbs 31 wife is incredible. She runs her home, businesses, and manages things for her husband. Take action now to be a virtuous woman, a woman to whom your husband can safely trust his heart.
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41 thoughts on “Take Action Now to Keep Your Marriage Happy Over the Long Term”
It’s so comforting to read these stories and know that there are others that have gone through the same situation as me. As I have read a lot, I’m not alone in this and I have felt so stupid for a long time that I haven’t gotten over it and it’s been almost 3-4 years since it’s happened but I’ve never gotten closure. We’ve remained friends even best friends but now I regret not taking the space apart that was needed to heal and get over the situation, now I feel that it is too late to step back and take that time away because to me honestly it seems to hurt more and more but other days it doesn’t hurt at all. I would really appreciate some advise or some tips on what to do or if I could vent to someone about this all to people I can relate to. Thank you all for sharing your story and being strong through this complicated experience.love
This is a fantastic post! I’m going to print it out and keep it with my other wife learning materials. I appreciate you taking the time to share this awesome advice! I’d love to see more of it! <3
You are right about the Proverbs 31 woman – she is incredible! I am glad you liked the other stories. It was fun living them!
I met my husband when I was 19. I always joke that he is the oldest thing I own.
I love Proverbs 31, not just for wives, but women in general. I read a few of the other marital stories, cute! Thanks for sharing those
We were 21 when we married and it was a great time! I have been with my husband since we were 15 so it has been about 15 together or half our lives.
Congratulations on your seven years. Many people do not make that number. As you said, so many people give up at the first sign of trouble Marriage is work and I think many people would have better, healthier and happier marriages if they continued to put the work in and try to make the marriage a success instead of leaving or trying it with someone new.
Great advice, thank you 🙂 We are rather young in our marriage, seven years, but am so glad we have persevered through so much. I see so many friends and couples throwing their relationships away, because they are bombarded with advice that says, “It’s not working, it’s not worth it, he/she won’t change, you deserve better”… and now some of them are struggling with the new man/woman in their ex-spouse’s life, and how to co-parent with it all. Every situation is unique, but my husband and I have agreed to remain married – and put the necessary work in 🙂
Picking the right spouse…definitely important. Haha! I am so glad I didn’t go down the wrong path and waited for the hubs. I knew very early on that he was the one!
Congrats on your 37 years! I am so happy for you. Marriage is work, hard work but it is also some of the most rewarding work we will ever do.
Very good info – I am 37+ years and counting. The best advice I think is “you must spend your entire married life paying attention to the vows” We work everyday at being married. I think so many think it is easy and just happens – it is the hardest job right next to being a Mom. As we age we change – just like raising children – we need to be willing to learn and adjust to keep our marriage alive.
Great post. Marriage is hard work but it is also so well worth it.
Something I have to work on is giving my husband my full attention. He doesn’t like it when I’m working on my phone or laptop once he’s home.
These are definitely great tips on marriage. It’s work, but marriage has the potential to be the greatest union your entire life.
Marriage really is a living thing. I couldn’t think of a better way to phrase it!
This is a beautiful post. I haven’t been married very long, and I know that I need guidance and tips from people who have been there and done that.
That’s one reason I’m not a fan of huge fancy weddings. It puts the relationship in fairy tale mode and it’s so not that for long. It takes real work and dedication to keeping it going.
I’ll apply these tips when I get married.
These are wonderful tips for couples in any stage of their relationship. All relationships take work, but when you put the time and effort in, it is worth it.
Marriage can be very challenging. Thank you for the advice!
Lots of very useful advice in this post! I totally agree about keeping parts of your marriage private.
What great reminders. Too many people give up so fast, it does take work but it’s so worth it!
You are right about that. One thing that helped us is that we were young and we grew together. It has been a grand adventure.
I wish I had read this post 13 years ago before I had gotten married. It took a long time for us to get into a pattern but marriage is definitely hard work, and it’s made even harder if you don’t know your partner well.
Those are truly words of wisdom. A successful marriage takes time and attention.
I like that idea, problems quiet and love loud!
Thank you! I am glad you liked it. It is important to focus on the relationship because it will keep things going when times get tough.
Spouses have to stick together because if nothing else, you will need each other when the kids leave!
Great tips… Hubby and I have been married for almost ten years and agree with all of these… We like to keep our problems quiet and our love loud… ha!
Yes, when you are in a marriage with your best friend, there is hope you will work it out together.
Good point Lisa. After all, even if marriage was cake, cake goes stale after a while!
Great post. Marriage is work and more work and a lot of communication, understanding and love.
Great post!! It is SO important to focus on your relationship. It can be difficult with everything that life throws at you though. I love your advice.
How SWEET is what he did before your sisters’ weekend visits.
I love the suggsestion of the kids etc come second. I feel the kids have been so demanding of my husband I am last. Need to share this article.
This is SUCH a good post. Most people seem to think that if they get along now, their marriage will be cake. NO marriage is cake. People’s goals, wants, and needs change over the course of their lifetime, and a marriage has to change along with them.
I think it’s so sweet that he brought over bags of groceries and treats for your sisters. It’s the little things like that, that really tell you what a person is like. You have to notice the little things- both good and bad- to really know what you’re getting into in any type of relationship.
Marriage can be hard. Dang hard but at least I married my best friend and no matter what, we will work it out! Together.
You offer great advice. I agree with some and disagree with some. I think each person has to figure out what works best for their “marriage” and how to make it work. Thank you for sharing.
I read this all very carefully. Thank you for providing us guidance from your years of experience. I have made the wrong decisions with a prior partner before, and I hope to now be more conscious about picking the right spouse.
Great post. Marriage is definitley work, but if you communicate and don’t dwell on the little things, that helps.
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