When you are trying to balance your schedule, do it based on the life you have right now. You will get the best results if you don’t schedule based on what your dream life would be like.
You can find serenity by learning to balance your schedule based on the life you have, not the life you want. Whenever a group of working moms gets together, the subject of work/life balance inevitably gets raised. It doesn’t matter if the women work at home, in their own businesses or for other companies. The women who seem like good balance artists are asked their secrets for success. The women who have trouble balancing are frustrated and often on the verge of tears.
Over the years I have learned that the secret to balance at my house is working with reality instead of the dream. By this, I mean that I schedule my activities both personal and professional based on your real life. For example, my teenagers must be up at 6 am so they can be at the bus stop by 7 am. Everyone gets home from school and work between 4:30 and 6pm. I like to have dinner on the table by 6:15. Then I set aside time for family Which means that there is no point in scheduling any work from 4:15 pm to 9:00 pm because my children and husband -will be up and running around occupying my mind and my time. No matter how much I would like to sit down at 6:00 pm and write or talk with clients, it will not happen, at least not without more drama than it is all worth.
When you schedule, be sure you put the following things in our calendar before adding your schedule:
1. Children’s school and activity schedules
2. Spouse’s activity schedule
3. Your religious obligations
4. Your work obligations
At the start of each school year when I get my children’s school calendars, I take the time to actually fill in days off, half days, HSA meetings, school breaks, concerts, and the like. I make sure to keep track of my husband’s work events on my calendar. Events for church I add to my telephone right at church while I am reading the weekly announcements. Once all that stuff is in the calendar I see what time is free and available. This means when I schedule time for my work obligations, I don’t have to feel guilty or stressed because I have taken everything and everyone else into account.
A secret for me is an electronic calendar. I use an electronic calendar because it means my calendar is on my phone, my tablet, and my laptop. If I lose or break any of them, I still have my calendar “in the cloud.” One benefit of the calendar being on my phone is that I can carry the phone ifn my pocket or on my hip and have an alarm go off when it is time to do the next thing on the schedule. My scheduling for balance wasn’t perfect day one of using an electronic calendar. It wasn’t perfect on day two either. But now, it does work well for me and I continue to schedule purposefully, and with my actual family and obligations in mind.
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In conclusion, you can find serenity by learning to schedule based on the life you have, not the life you want. So, the question for you this fantastic day is, are you scheduling your life based on reality or on a dream?