• Thu. Feb 2nd, 2023

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Instead of Complaining – Don’t Adopt Weaknesses You Hate

change yourself


Instead of complaining about the weaknesses in others, today I will make sure those weaknesses do not have a home in me. Today I pray for strength and courage.

Yesterday I was talking with my husband and we were upset about the weaknesses and problems with someone we see on a regular basis. For a while we were discouraged and angry. We spent a few minutes complaining and detailing about how horrible things were. Then we started talking about how we can work with and around those weaknesses and still be happy, still get our desired outcomes. After that discussion, the rest of the day was better.

The weaknesses did not disappear, nor did our disappointment. What changed was our attitude. Once we stopped complaining about other people we were able to figure out solutions to our problems and to be creative in fashioning a game plan for the future. The situation reminded me of an old Michael Jackson song – “Man in the Mirror.” Two lines in particular stick out in my memory – 

If you want to make the world a better place

Take a look in the mirror and make a change


I thought about those lines this morning and decided to check my own behavior. I have some form of the behavior I was not happy about and I need to get my act together. So today, I am working on making better decisions, not procrastinating and taking the feelings and needs of others into consideration as I carry out my duties.

Take a moment now to think about the last time you complained about someone else’s behavior. What was it that bothered you? Now take a long and deep look at your own behavior. How often do you exhibit the behavior, attitude and qualities you complained about? How would your life change if you stopped complaining about others and improved your own behavior?