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Stick to the Plan, But Be Like Water

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This post was inspired by Trapped Under the Sea by Neil Swidey. In Boston, five men were sent into a dark, airless, miles-long tunnel below the ocean to do a nearly impossible job that would help clean the once dirtiest harbor in America. Join From Left to Write on February 19th as we discuss Trapped Under the Sea As a member, I received a copy of the book for review purposes.

In life we make plans, grand, beautiful and wonderful plans. Sometimes our plans  knock the socks of those who hear our plans or who watch us as we are carrying out those plans. Then, all of a sudden, something goes wrong, our plans get messed up and we are left lost and wondering what to do. This book reminded me of marriage and the ups and downs of married life. When my husband and I decided to marry about 25 years ago, I told him what I wanted. 
Janeane:     We are getting married and we are going to live happily ever after.
Darren:        What if we don’t?
Janeane:     There is no what if, we are getting married and we are going to live happily ever after. That is it.
Over the course of our married life, we have had ups and downs. The church girl in me, says that we have had peaks and valley experiences. We married when I was 23 (for one whole month) and he was 28 (for one whole day). We built a life together. We purchased a home, graduated from college, law school and grad school. We had children, and saw one of those children go from kindergarten to her freshman year at one of the most prestigious colleges in the country. We had grand plans and looking from the beginning of the marriage to this very day, by all measures, we have succeeded. 
20 thoughts on “Stick to the Plan, But Be Like Water”
  1. I love this description of marriage. My husband and I were not married young but our marriage is young. I often wonder what life has in store for us. We have been through many changes together, but nothing too challenging. I’m happy to keep it that way!

  2. We just celebrated our fourth anniversary. I totally can relate to this post. We make it work by being flexible!

  3. This is such a wonderful post. I can literally count on one hand the number of couples I know who are still together with multiple children under age five… so sad.

  4. I used to have a back up plan, but I realized I kind of liked my guy! I recently read an article about how some marriages are dead at times. Like waves, we sometimes have to ride it out.

  5. I think too many people get married while keeping a back up exit plan. My hubs and I are in this for the long haul good and bad.

  6. Marriage is definitely full of peaks and valleys. I like your plan!

  7. Sounds like a motivational read! Marriage certainly does take a lot of hard work! You’ve got this!

  8. I love a book that you can relate to. We too have gone through a lot and still are ticking.

  9. Marriage is the hardest thing ever, aside from parenting. But it’s something you have to commit to and work at if you want to live happily ever after. Thanks for sharing – great post!

  10. Such an important post. People need to understand that every marriage is going to go through ups and downs. After being married for 33 years, I can tell you it’s worth it!

  11. This is a great story and I like how you related it all back to the book… in fact, you could write your own book!

  12. The only way a marriage can be successful is to have a plan and both partners stay committed to the plan. Once life steps into the marriage it’s a whole new ball game, my marriage story is quite the same…we just keep hitting the ball out of the park! Blessings!!

  13. Good for you! You have certainly experienced some hard times but it sounds like it has made your marriage stronger. Thanks for sharing your story and giving us all inspiration!

  14. I like your plan. Too many people get married, hit a rough spot and then divorce. I like that you chose to live happily ever after and have worked towards that.

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